Sex Taboo

One thing I have noticed from chatting with a number of guys from India is how ironic it is that in India sex is a taboo. The country has over a billion people in it, so obviously they are doing it. The renowned Kama Sutra book of sexual positions is from India, so obviously the culture accepted at one point in time that sex was important and worth writing a book about that has been around for a very long time.

The lack of privacy astounds me when I talk to young men in their twenties that act as though they are ten years old. Lack of privacy for something as simple as masturbation is a real challenge. Door locks seem to be unheard of, I never heard of ones living that way that were legally adults.

It seems they are not even supposed to date or have anything to do with ones of the opposite sex, they seem to just sneak around and youngsters are kept in the dark about basic questions about sex and their own bodies.

Ignorance and curiosity can be a very bad combination. If ones are so kept in the dark they don’t even know about how pregnancies occur or diseases take  hold, how can they be expected to act responsibly? It is a very unusual culture, not as in your face as north American culture at all. Keeping ones in the dark is never a good idea and will only lead to heartaches for everyone involved.

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It Cuts Both Ways

 

A taboo to some is circumcision. It is having a modern backlash in its popularity as some find it a mutilating situation. Many started it for religious purposes. Jews and Muslims in particular use it, ironic since they are at war with each other, but both find this something to agree about. Ones say it is not something ones should be doing today, that it is obsolete and not required in any way. That in fact it does not always make things cleaner and is an unnecessary trauma to inflict on a newborn. 

It was done to reduce sexual pleasure, which is never a good thing, but it does look better to most people. So ones debate whether to continue doing this to male newborns. Rates of circumcision have been dropping globally for decades. If properly washed, there is no need for it to make cleanliness easier, but how many are diligent enough to actually cleanse themselves properly. I think most people are not clean by my standards, I doubt most shower everyday, so I can see that for most it’s likely a good idea, since most are not careful enough about their personal hygiene.

 I can understand both sides to the argument. It’s not right on one hand to cut somebody without their permission, a newborn cannot make a decision for themselves, it is being done on their behalf. There is a growing movement of grown men looking to “reclaim their foreskins” and doing weird things to get it back. I recall seeing a documentary on such a man that was having weights put on his penis to stretch the skin he had to become like the cut foreskin. Obviously if the head of the penis is covered, it will be more sensitive to feeling than one that has been exposed and that would reduce pleasure. There are arguments for both sides, I bet most grown men given the choice would not choose to have some skin removed. I asked a guy I talk with about this that is uncircumcised and he said no way would anyone be removing any of his skin.

 

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Thou Shall Not Fall In Love

A taboo for some is having sex with a man of the cloth. A Catholic priest is really the only one here a woman would be falling for, since other forms of Christianity allow their men of the cloth to take wives. Rabbi’s and ministers are allowed to marry, but as priests take a vow of celibacy, it’s not allowed.

There was a very popular book and miniseries in the 1980’s called “The Thorn Birds”, about a priest that fell in love with a woman, it was quite big in its day, forbidden love and all that. The thought of stealing a man away from God himself holds appeal to some women, that they alone could be the most tempting thing this man had ever known. Men don’t join the priesthood in the numbers they once did, it’s been on the steady decline since the 1960’s, and men have been leaving once they have joined because they cannot take being alone. Love and sex is too much of a draw. They want a family and if they want that, it’s crazy to deny themselves.

Not as many men have the fantasy of nuns it seems. There has only been one client I ever had that had a fantasy about priests and nuns, he was a character for sure. He wanted the nuns getting it on together and the priests and nuns to be getting it on together, his stuff was pretty wild. I’d think only one raised in the church would likely have such fantasies, as why would an atheist bother thinking of such things, they likely wouldn’t. I’m sure some have, but not as many as the ones raised around nuns and priests would, and their fantasies would be a rebelling of sorts.

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Minute Men

A taboo NO man wants to talk about is a mighty common one at that-premature ejaculation. An embarrassment that many live with. I was horrified to read the average man only lasts 5 1/2 minutes! UNACCEPTABLE! Some of my favorite calls are small penis humiliation calls, they are so utterly amusing and easy, and guess what they very commonly go hand in hand with? You guessed it, premature ejaculation.

I always assumed most men are in a hurry since they grew up furtively masturbating in bathrooms or their rooms always worrying someone would be questioning what was taking them so long in there, and indeed, I do think a great deal of that is to blame. But going back in time to the cave man, when predators were around every corner and you had to flee at a moments notice, it makes sense that you’d get things over with as fast as possible so you could fight or flee. If you’re in the middle of fucking as a cougar comes walking into your cave, you’re not going to be as fast on the attack as if you weren’t fucking, would you now…

Well the days of evading cougars in caves is long past us and now we can usually relax and enjoy ourselves, but they guys are still barely clocking past 5 min. There are techniques that guys can use to train themselves to last longer. I have told countless callers how to train themselves and get over this. It CAN be overcome, if they are willing to put in the time and the practice to do so. Sex is not a race. I can’t believe how many people I tell that too. You’d think people were banging on their doors and they had to do it as fast as possible. Research online the various techniques to overcome premature ejaculation and you and your partner will thank you!

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Period Sex

A taboo for some women is having sex during their period. Ones used to be sent to caves during their time of the month, even the bible speaks of women not being touched during this time or they and the ones they lay with will be “unclean”. Not all guys are into it either.

It’s up to the people involved obviously. I have talked to many about this topic, some guys don’t care, others don’t want to, same with the ladies, some don’t mind, others do not feel fresh enough to get intimate during this time.

For some it is a fetish, I haven’t had that many calls from guys that were into this, but I have had a few for sure. There is period porn out there for ones really wanting to see the nitty gritty shall we say. I’m convinced no matter the topic, there’s porn out there for it if you look hard enough. One cam girl I know has masturbating during her period videos available, so obviously there’s a market for them, or they wouldn’t have been made in the first place.

You can certainly get horny during your period, there’s no doubt about that. If it’s beyond the having cramps stage where you’re crying curled up in a ball from the pain, I have no problem with playing during that time of the month, but for some cramps can be some painful, sex is the last thing you want any part of, but once that’s passed, I’m good to go….

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