The term sadism comes from a very colorful character in history, the Marquis De Sade. He found great sexual pleasure in hurting and torturing others. Most of his staff would quit due to sexual harassment. He is quite a character to be sure. A prolific writer of pornographic stories, and this was in the 1700’s, imprisoned and committed to insane asylums for his ideas and treatments of others.
Many people today also really get off on sadism. The “S” in BDSM stands for sadism, named after our French bad boy. His relatives were embarrassed for many years to even be associated with such a man.
Some people love inflicting their power over others, power can be a very strong aphrodisiac. If both parties are consenting, that is fine, but this old boy loved to crack the whip on ones not wanting to play, which is abuse. You don’t go around hurting others. Some love to be abused those, they are the ones they should seek out the ones that crave pain and humiliation at the hands of another.
The movie 9 1/2 Weeks is a good cinematic example of an S&M relationship, not with violence though, with mental games and bit of spanking with a riding crop, nothing too severe, but still very much with the man in total control over the relationship. It’s a very erotic movie everyone with an interest in erotic movies should see. It can be very intoxicating to hand the control over to your partner, but you have to trust them to do this. But it can be very sexy indeed…..
