What it is about submission that is so arousing? It seems especially to be so for ones that had a background of abuse or bullying. Which is ironic and seems masochistic, however many say it provides a chance for them to be the one being submissive again-yet on their terms. I hate to admit it, but I believe this is actually true. It doesn’t seem to make sense to want to relieve such mental, sometimes also physical pain and especially degradation, yet it can be so intense it’s remarkable.
People can be very complex creatures and the things that they should avoid they sometimes seek out. We are sometimes attracted to people that are very wrong for us that we should totally stay away from, they are in fact a drug to us. Ones in downright physically abusive relationships are the extreme case of this, they have taken things too far entirely and for women attracted to abusive men, they are in serious denial and need help. I do know what it’s like to be attracted to ones not good for us, it’s not a healthy situation at all. But we go to them like moths to a flame at times.
Hopefully most into domination and submission can keep things at a healthy level and keep such attractions and games to the bedroom, and not let it spill over into our lives. Some can be very submissive in the bedroom and yet be the total opposite in all other areas of their lives, which is much healthier. Like the cops and doctors going to a dominatrix on their own time, then they go back to their dominant selves once they leave the dungeon.
