So many callers tell me about same sex experiences, it’s incredible. One the other day was telling me all about how he wants to end his marriage because he’s in love with another man and they have been seeing each other for a couple of years when they can on weekends and trips and whatnot. He’s lived his whole life a lie and now at middle age is finally coming to a realization he wants a man in his life, not his wife.
I asked when this first came into his mind and he said in his late teens, before he ever even got married, he thought it was “a phase”, something many seem to think they will grow out or. Watching gay porn behind their wife’s back, meeting guys they find on questionable and possibly unsafe internet sites, having clandestine and often risky sex exposing themselves and their partner to serious diseases, but of course if they came prepared with condoms, that would mean it’s pre meditated, that they really are looking for gay sex on the side, so they can’t bring themselves to take steps to protect themselves, that would mean they are gay.
It’s a quite high number of callers that reveal same sex experiences and fantasies they have, even if it was an isolated incident decades ago, it left a huge impression and they can’t stop thinking about it and are simply allowing fear stopping them, what if the wife, kids, family, coworkers, etc found out? What then? They’d be ruined, so they live in the closet and make very risky choices when the urge overcomes them before they slink back in their closet. People really need to be careful and consider their actions effects on others.
